Discovering who you are is not just for teenagers. Midlife men must also rediscover the world around them while struggling with their own impending mortality and legacy, especially those who change careers and lifestyles.
Middle-aged men like me are under siege, beset on all sides by personal ambition, internal expectations, familial pressure, disillusionment, uncertainty, and legacy. It’s a constant battle to balance the needs of the self and the needs of others and a struggle to discover which ones really take priority. Some win this battle and some tragically lose.
Curmudgeonism is a state of mind, unwavering, unapologetic, and uninterested in what people think. We are the proverbial old dog that can’t be taught new tricks because we know the old tricks are tried and true. We have firm beliefs that can’t be shaken. Free trade is good. True leaders are rare. Happiness is a luxury. Golf is a waste of time and we don’t have enough years left to be unproductive. We don’t apologize for our views because we’ve spent half a lifetime developing them. Theory and idealism sounds good in school but only until it becomes cost prohibitive and the real world determines ground truth. Curmudgeons are uncaring about what people think and have low expectations on the world because it’s done little more than disappoint us. We’re middle aged and tired of looking, acting, feeling the way people want us to, so we’re breaking out and being who we were meant to be; irascible curs who make the world a better place through brutal honesty. We see this as our duty and take it seriously.
Buy the ticket (kindle). Take the ride.
This awesome book was written, unflinchingly, by my fellow curmudgeon (local 198!), Kelly Crigger. Crigger looks into the mirror and is now ambivalent with what he sees...at home in his own curmudgeonly skin...ready to band us all together to yell at all the kids on our collective lawns.
The book opens with:
I heard a guy say, "I didn't go to my best friend's funeral because I couldn't deal with it" to which I replied, "You're a pussy."...
And just gets better and better. Inside you can find the 3 stages of curmudgeonism (I only wanted 2, damn you), maxims, quotes, terminology for the curmudgeon - essentially the "how to"...but the best chapter is the Curmudgeon insults which I now use daily.
This is the must have for your Dad, best friend, Rabbi, plumber, neighbor, or anyone who is a curmudgeon, wants to be one, or needs to know how to live with them.
Buy it now in paperback!